Check In with Yourself, Sis: Making Space for Peace and Permission to Feel Good

Hey Beauties,

It's time to catch up---it's been a minute! I truly hope life is treating you well, especially with everything happening in our world right now.

Lately, I've been deep in decluttering mode--clearing my workspace, my closets, and just trying to create more space in my home (and my mind). It's wild how much stuff we collect just from day-to-day living. Running a business from home adds its own chaos and let me tell you--I've had to lean all the way into discipline and organization to keep it together.

Once I start a project, I go full throttle like I'm plugged into a battery. But after pushing too hard, I usually get the message--loud and clear--from my aching back and tired shoulders.

Recently, I decided to stop ignoring those signals and start checking in--with my body, my emotions, and my intuition. As women, we have this beautiful gift of intuition, but so often we override it, especially when life gets noisy. If you've been feeling off, overextended, or just out of touch with yourself, take this as your sign to pause.

We're constantly flooded with news, social media, and the world's chaos. Yes, stay informed---but also, unplug and get quiet sometimes. You need you.

About two weeks ago, I made a spiritual commitment to myself: to set aside time every day for devotion and prayer. No set time, no pressure--just the promise to show up daily. At first, it was just 10-15 minutes. But now? I'm spending an hour or more some days--and it feels effortless. I even added journaling, and honestly, it has changed my life.

Through this practice, I've gained so much clarity. Clarity about who I'm becoming, what matters most, and where I want to grow. I'm learning to set boundaries, say yes to what feeds me, and no to what drains me.

In the early days of my career, I hit the ground running--full of excitement and determination to build my business. I was doing everything on my own--no coach, no guide, no mentor. Just me fueled by passion and a vision. I had my website up, applied for a trademark, and started forming partnerships with other businesses. I even had a publicist getting my name out there, landing interviews and opportunities left and right.

At one point, I was processing 8 to 10 custom hair unit orders a day. That meant designing, creating, and shipping them out--daily. I kept that pace for a long time, not realizing the toll it was taking on me.

It wasn't until I finally sat down and took a breath that the truth hit me like a ton of bricks--I had been neglecting myself in the process. Since then, I've made a conscious decision to move with intention. I set realistic goals, give myself permission to pause, and make room in my schedule for rest, reflection, and peace.

So today, I want to pass that energy on to you.

Find a way to check in with yourself.

Create a little joy that belongs only to you. Pour into your soul the way you pour into everyone else.

Your emotional, mental, and spiritual health are invisible jewels--protect them. Nurture them. Honor them.

This week, ask yourself:

• How and how often do I give myself permission to enjoy life?

• What are the things that make me feel good while I'm doing them?

Give yourself space to answer with honesty and love.

With you in heart,

Tina

Ageless Confidence: Embracing Empowerment at Every Stage of Life

If you are a woman of a certain age, you’ve probably heard how life gets better as you age but let's be real.... nobody talks about the other side of aging. Body and skin changes, wrinkles, weight gain, aches and pains, forgetfulness, lack of energy and motivation, not to mention the blow to your self- confidence! Aging literally sneaks up on you and if you are unprepared or unaware, you’ll think you’re losing your mind! I wish I'd had an amazing group of elder women to have these important conversations with. Having important conversations with those who care for us like doctors, hair stylists, and therapists can also

serve as a method of “checking in.” Other women tell us all the time to enjoy our youth while it lasts but they don’t really share any strategies, tips or sound advice on how to do just that. As women we’ve become a community of silent sufferers when we really should share our tips and secrets to success. It is our duty to educate ourselves, one another and those who come behind us as to how to preserve ourselves. In my experience, the changes came on so subtly that at one point I did not recognize myself. It was as though I had become this whole other person and not in a good way. Because my spirituality is a grounding force in my life, I needed to revert to my spiritual connection with who I know as God. Recalibrating, re-centering to discover who I have been and who I am meant to become. I understand that there is no “one size” solution for every woman but most women have a lot in common and could benefit from the collective sharing of experiences.

Let’s deal with some limiting beliefs that we must be aware of. Let’s ensure that we’re doing inner and outer work to avoid taking on these sometimes-negative beliefs:

1.       “I’m too old to pursue my dreams”

This belief can shut down ambition and the desire to explore new opportunities, leading to a sense of missed potential and diminished self-worth. As a beauty professional who has encountered hundreds of women from diverse backgrounds, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this. Since I am not one to believe in age limitations, it always leaves me wondering at which stage does this belief show up for us.

One way to counter this belief is by recognizing that every stage of life brings unique strengths and opportunities. Your experiences are assets that can help you succeed. Set small, achievable goals related to your dream and celebrate each win along the way. Solicit support and encouragement from those you trust and look for role models or stories of women who reinvented themselves later in life!

2.       “My worth is tied solely to my appearance.” By equating value with physical looks, aging changes can feel like a loss of self, undermining confidence and self-acceptance. Hair and skin changes were a wake-up call for me! It’s almost like I was in a state of denial and subconsciously avoided accepting the subtle signs of aging. Grey and thinning hair, sagging cheeks, weight gain and other natural changes that occur with aging were difficult to process. After educating myself to the signs of aging and what happens with the female body as it ages, I had to have a real conversation with myself. It was important to understand that these things are normal, and they happen to everyone.

Realizing that you are more than your appearance is important. You are the 3D expression of spirit and that cannot be measured, you are limitless!

Always counter this belief by practicing self-affirmation. Daily affirmations focusing on your inner qualities can help shift your focus from appearance to your true value. Invest in activities that nurture your body, mind, and spirit -- like yoga, meditation, or creative hobbies – to build a well-rounded sense of self-worth. Focus on what you love by dedicating time to activities that bring you joy and allow you to shine from within!

3.       “I can no longer learn or adapt.” 

Like the first limiting belief of “being too old” this limiting belief will have a negative impact on personal growth, making it harder to embrace new challenges and skills, which in turn restricts the sense of empowerment and ongoing relevance. In this area it was important for me to discover the things that contribute to balanced mental well-being. Recognizing the things that helped me cope with stress as well as those that were stress inducing was a huge factor in having a healthy balance. Exercising, carving out time for solitude and relaxation, spending time being creative and working with my hands brought a sense of calm. It is imperative to adopt a growth mindset and remind yourself that learning is a lifelong journey. The brain can adapt at any age. Engage in new experiences. Take a class, try a new hobby, or join a group where learning is encouraged. Celebrate small wins by recognizing every new skill you acquire, no matter how minor, as a victory!

The goal is to become fearless with age. You have overcome many obstacles in your life and continue to do so each new day. “You are not getting old; you are growing resilient!”

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